Confident people do not need to accept unacceptable behavior from another person. When someone behaves inappropriately or is potentially abusive, your best option is to let her know what you see, and stop the bad behavior in its tracks.
By doing so you are setting a boundary for yourself that will serve you well. If you don’t, when people see that you are willing to let them do or say things that are questionable, you are actually giving them permission to continue doing so.
Saying “stop” or, if necessary, leaving the room (or asking the other person to) lets him know he has crossed a line and signals him not to do it again. Discussing the offending behaviors may be necessary, and important if you want to save the relationship, so don’t just point to the door; let people know you are willing to talk about it.
Do not let yourself be abused. It will erode your confidence faster than anything else I can think of.
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